With my way of thinking I kno nothing is by chance. Every instance in life has a action and a reaction but how the reaction comes will set a ripple effect that is uncontrollable and most of the times it is a undesired ride on a wave heading to a brick wall. Will the swell of the water over take that wall and bring you into calm waters, or will you smack into the wall knocked unconscious wondering what happened?
How did I get here? Am I ok? Did anyone else get hurt? Can anyone help me? Am I going to drown? Should I give this up? This is dangerous? Should I get back on? Should I go home and never come back?
The gift of foresight has you asking questions beforehand. Before you set things in motion. Before you get a answer you don’t want to hear.
Everyone has a dangerous wave to ride. It could be marriage, parenting, driving, partying, family, work.
All of your actions & reactions define you. If you are getting unwarranted negative reactions I have learned that you have to look at your self as to why you are creating strife. What can you change about you to make things better.
At the top of my list is communication. Without this you lose. No yelling or condensing remarks. Granted truth hurts especially to thoes that aren’t prepared to hear it. Be honest & be yourself unfiltered and let your guard down to thoes you trust. When you have a facade up all the time and people deal with you a specific way you are creating the cause and will have to deal with the effect.
Having a weakness is understandable but using it as a crutch will get you no where.
My teacher is picking on me!
What was the cause? Are you not applying your self, can you do better, or does your teacher just not like you?
My boss treated me bad!
What was the cause, did you acomplish all of your tasks, are you making your boss look bad, does your boss just power trip for no reason?
My child is unruly!
What was the cause, does your emotional range vary around your child, do you expect things from your child that you did not instill in them from the start & trying to correct things later, are they emulating you, do they respect you, do they fear you, do they despise you, have you asked them?
I want to be in shape but I don’t have the time!
Everyone has time it may be limited but you have time it’s just what do you want more. Do you want to complain or do you want change?
There are times where my brash way or speaking can push some away if they are not use to it. I do not feel that I should curtail my way of speak to appease someone but I have learned to be conscious of someone’s feelings especially if they are not as “thick skinned” as one would assume. And with that my problems arise… Me assuming that someone can handle me my actions, thoughts, approach, logic. But no. It took me years to develop to who I am so how can I expect anyone to understand in just a few moments…..
I must check my self more often and actively so that I am not the cause of someone’s hurt feelings. This is a daily prosses and I learn more every day. Every action you take has a ripple effect… You may not see or feel it at this moment but it is always someone watching…. Parents, children, co workers, friends, and most importantly your significant other…..
With in this building prosses I will become one step closer to enlightenment.
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